Reconsidering a Parent’s Role in Education

A Reflection on Stepping Up for Brilliant Young Minds

I was so excited when we opened the first unit of English in Term 4 last year and found it was poetry. Disillusionment set in rather quickly when I discovered all the exercises were centred on adaptation of existing poetry. It was only a few weeks after the allegations of plagiarism had been levelled at Graham Nunn and several other poets. It seemed to me that Ed Queensland were actually endorsing a process seen in other professional circles as the worst kind of creative theft.

While the poetry unit taught the nuances of rhyme, alliteration, onomatopoeia and rhythm, students were given no freedom or opportunity to explore these parameters independently; to create their own original poems. There was also the issue of repetition. Across five weeks they were expected to complete five adaptations, the final one the assessment item.

I had to sell the final piece to my son as an opportunity to write a rap, to create some beats and perform it; it was the only way to engage him with the material and the process by that point. As to be expected, he rose to the challenge but then refused to submit his rapped poem as the assessment piece because he was afraid he would be failed for doing something different.


It’s hard not to be critical when you are the one on the ground delivering something you see as inherently defective, both as a creative individual and as someone who wields words for a living.

Anyone who is a Facebook friend or who follows me on Twitter will know I was very vocal and critical throughout the unit. This was very out of character for me. I am loath to be critical of anything I feel I am unable to offer an alternative for or to be an effective vehicle of change against.

I considered writing a letter to BDSE about the unit but was told they draw their material directly from the National Curriculum. All the angry letters in the world weren’t going to change it. All I could do was try and fill the gaps as best I could (which I was able to do because I was the home tutor!) and to let my friends who are writers and poets know what was going on at the grassroots level. To get them investigating how poetry and creative writing were being taught to their kids.


I believe whoever put together the Grade 3 poetry unit last year had no imagination, no passion or appreciate for poetry. Like much of mainstream schooling, it’s all about ticking a particular series of boxes. Unfortunately creativity is not considered a box important enough to include, let alone tick.

When I mentioned this to an old friend, who has been a teacher for almost 20 years, she said there is so much to get through in the curriculum and the pressure on teachers to get through it is so enormous there is no time for creativity. So I asked where kids get to explore creativity. At home, was the answer.

I was mortified.

What if you come from a household that, like the education system, doesn’t value creativity? Where do you get your exposure? Where do you get a chance to appreciate it, participate in and explore it?

Students are encouraged to excel in science, in sport, they can excel in any particular subject area, but few (and in many instances no) opportunities exist to excel in being creative. And no, being creative is not simply about opting to do art or drama or music.


Last week I had a long conversation on Twitter with Adam about the parental role in education. It was long and many faceted dissection of a complex interaction. Much of the responsibility to address issues faced by children and young people has been abdicated by parents and forced on teachers, in a parenting culture that, from an early age, outsources primary care of children beyond the family home.

I absolutely agree with Adam that teachers deserve more recognition, more respect and more support. And I agree parents need to step up, rather than step back and point. However the system negates much of the potential parents have to offer to participate in their children’s education beyond getting their kids to school, helping them with their homework, coming in to help with reading when students are young, do a ‘job talk’ and other auxiliary, but ‘parallel’ roles dictated by the P&C.

In short, parents are not seen as co-educators. Teachers are seen as the sole professionals in the area and parents to defer to them, rather than work in conjunction with them to achieve excellent educational outcomes. (Adam pointed out that this requires an entirely different and complete discussion as to how this came to be?)


I admit, I trusted the system to know what was best for my son. I was engaged as I could be: helped in tuckshop, did reading groups, did a class talk on publishing, sorted the class readers every week, attended parent teacher nights and went to parade as often as I could, sold sausages on election day, donated prizes each year for raffles, attended fundraisers, did everything short of attending P&C meetings (and that was a conscious decision after years of burn out in other volunteer capacities). The thing was, I was on the periphery of the every day function of the classroom. It was clearly delineated what the expectation of parents were and I did my best to step up.

That was until things fell apart and we needed help. Over 12 months the trust I had in the system, and a mainstream school’s ability to help, diminished until it was suggested that we leave, enroll in distance education while we sorted out our son’s issues. I was forced to step up and become responsible for my son’s education.

Once I was a home tutor, and charged with the responsibility of delivering the national curriculum, I had the chance to have an intimate relationship with the content. I got to finally set foot in ‘the classroom’. I got to review and form an opinion on the strengths and weaknesses. How it might work better in a classroom, rather than a kitchen table, and visa versa, how difficult teaching is. It was this chance to interface with the material that got me questioning and suggesting to other creatives that they too question how our children engage with English as future readers, writers, film makers, poets, critics and so forth. We need to step up and ask to be part of the process as professionals in this area, as well as parents.


It’s very different where my son goes to school now. It is a small community school of less than sixty kids. Parents aren’t just encouraged to be part of the every day school culture they are expected to be. One of the fathers take PE classes on a Friday afternoon, several of the mums do music and yoga lessons. In the morning there is always a parent in the room to help with the multi-age, multi-skill diversity of the class.

At the beginning of the year, my son’s teacher asked if I knew anything about poetry. While I’m certainly no expert, I’ve been penning a few poetic phrases of late and have a growing appreciation of the form. She asked if I would be interested in coming in once a week to teach poetry. I told her Stacey, whose daughter is in the same class, wrote more poetry than I did and she’d probably be keen to teach as well.

Two weeks ago Stacey went in and shared with them erasure poetry. She introduced it as “vandalising someone’s words” – a far more appropriate activity than misappropriating someone’s words through an adaptation in my opinion.


Tuesday I shared solage, a form Wiki refuses to acknowledge. It was how I opened my spiel to them, followed on by selling it as ‘detective poetry’ – each line was a clue as to what the final word was.

Some kids caught on quickly and were prolific. Other kids were slower to wrap their head around it and produce a solid poem. A few didn’t get it, but came up with some lovely rhyming lines and engaged in rather interesting discussions about words (particularly around flies and living in poo!). Solage is not a ‘simple form’ and I was impressed to see the tenacity with which they all attempted it.

Here are a few examples (these are for kids in Grade 3 – 7!)

While the cats away

The opposite of play

– pause

A good mark

Crawls on bark

– tic

A memory in the past

More recent than last

– new

Waits by the throne

Lighter than foam

– air

All those who completed a poem stood up to read their work to the class. It was something I am sure Cameron Semmens, as a performance poet, would have been proud of.


As a dyed-in-the-wool post-it note poet, I took in a stack of coloured squares and flowers and speech bubbles, invited the kids to transcribe their completed poems onto them. Then one of the girls suggested that they stick them up on the tree above their reading area.

And thus, we ended up with a solage tree. Not all the poems ended up on the wall, but a majority did. I’d love to think that over the next few weeks the tree might sprout more leaves until the glue gives way and the poems fall like autumn leaves.


I agree education is not entertainment. But I also believe education is not all hard work. Learning is a life long experience. Learning has at its heart passion, engagement and experimentation. Most school teachers believe this too, but the system and the administration of it, has lost sight of it, focused instead on letting bureaucrats over complicate things in the quest to create quantifiable output.

I don’t expect my son’s entire class to go on to write or read poetry as teenagers or adults. What is important to me is, for an hour or so, they were all engaged in the word play, in a way that stimulated independent thought and creative exploration. They weren’t appropriating someone else’s words or thoughts and trying to shoehorn them into own. They were able to give their ideas and words a chance to free-range. To shine!

If I can share just a little of my passion with young minds and hearts, and if just one, JUST ONE, of those kids is inspired to create or keep creating, then I have made an important contribution; an investment that will keep paying forward.

What would happen if the education system, as a whole, gave parents the chance to be part of the solution rather than part of the problem; if they gave parents the same opportunity I’ve had to participate and inspire, and students the chance to draw on the experience and talents of a wider community?

DISCLAIMER: In case it is not clear, I consider there to be a clear delineation between the eduction system and teachers, as I make the same delineation between nurses, doctors, auxiliary health processionals and the health system. This post IS NOT a brow beat of teachers, but a look at a system that has created artificial fractures between its ideological framework, teaching and axillary staff, parents and community… rather than fostering an inclusive and participatory attitude of partnership in learning.

6 thoughts on “Reconsidering a Parent’s Role in Education

  1. I think there is a place for and a space needed for parents, carers and volunteers to feel ‘at home’ at school – just a room, with a kitchenette, a few chairs and a table where parents who choose to volunteer their time to the school, might escape to (without fear of intruding on teachers’ quiet time and space) and engage with other Parents, Carers and community members. Surely more engagement could occur if there is a welcoming space for volunteers. They are ‘workers’ too!


    • A room dedicated to parents, volunteers and community members says ‘You are welcome to spend time here. We have a space here for you.’ We have a room at school just for that: huge couch, access to tea and coffee making facilities, toys for younger kids etc.

      Needless to say, I have spent quite a lot of time in there this term while Mr D has been transitioning back into school life. And I’m not the only parent!


  2. I’m glad you have elucidated what I could not for a long time. In the US, public schools are conformity factories to generate low-wage, unthinking workers/voters. An experience very close to yours in Australia.

    Part of that is the parents not caring to engage with their child’s teachers, but nobody hardly ever bucks up against the system for fear of losing some kind of federal or state funding.

    As a soon-to-be parent but also househusband and future SAHD, it’s been growing more and more prominent in my mind about what my future children’s education is going to be like, and if there really is anything I can do about it.


    • I have to say, I trusted the education system out of sheer exhaustion of parenting. There was no way I was handing my body over to the health system and the staff of a hospital when it came to birthing, but when it came to school I was too tired and worn down from the constant grind of parenting without support, to be picky.

      We DID choose a school that had a strong social and emotional program, an initiative that had come from the Australian Psychologist’s Association. But when it came down to it, we needed more than just drone teaching and the assistance was not there. It was all about talking the talk but not being able to walk it. And the principal in question was so full of his own self importance and the wow of his awesome well adjusted family, that you were left wanting for help.

      I guess, you have to look to see what the end goal is for the process. And yes, modern schooling is all about learning to be still, work without question and do as you are told. Took an any mainstream classroom and you have rows and rows of desks all facing forward toward the board and the teacher.

      In Mr D’s new school the classroom is a huge learning area that has tables grouped together (none actually face ‘true board’), there is a couch and reading area etc. It looks nothing like a traditional classroom.

      More parents need to feel they have the right to engage. And I think, if they actually opened a dialogue with teaching staff, they would see that they are actually welcomed there. And wouldn’t the process of learning be a far richer one for all, if it were a partnership, not a dictatorship!


  3. This is a wonderful post Jodi. There are barriers to what you are suggesting but they are not insurmountable – it requires parents, teachers and a school hierarchy that can work together well. Indeed I think there’s enough wiggle room in the curriculum to accommodate parent experts currently.

    I think poetry is a discipline that is explored more for its techniques ie metaphor, simile, alliteration etc than for the joy of creating good poetry. I’d wager that a fair few English teachers have rarely ever seriously written poetry, so for many it’s teaching something that they disliked themselves at school. Indeed at the last school I taught at one of the teachers voiced their hatred of poetry to the students before teaching the unit -wtf?. I’d also argue that quite a bit of poetry that is valued by the academic poetry scene is so cut off from the general populace that students and teachers rarely get to experience good poetry. But I’ll hop off that particular hobby horse 🙂


    • One day Sean, we will have much to discuss over alcoholic beverages in person.

      The process of learning, facilitated by someone who is passionate about the subject matter, is really what all kids deserve on a daily basis. I was talking with a friend who was saying there are four classes in her daughter’s year and each of the teachers specialises in an area. This means they get to teach to their passion and the children reap the benefits of that, plus the chance to be taught by several teachers which negates the worst impacts of a teacher-student personality clash.

      There are so many alternatives and so many possibilities for awesome outcomes when schools think outside the square. They just have to see change as positive and that any barriers are just challenges as part of the process of changing.

      I can just see there being a hullabaloo about ‘what’s an expert’ and ‘where’s their blue card’ etc etc. Because it’s easier to say it’s too hard, than put in the effort to make it happen.

      And the beauty of where Mr D is now, is that there is no effort in making it happen.


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